17 Sep Answer me, Parent!
Questions from parents.
👉How do I respond to this question that my 3 year old asked?
I respond with an answer.
Another question from a parent.
👉What do I tell when my 4-year-old goes through this?
I respond again.
Well, I’ve been asked several times- how do I know what’s the right thing to say?
In most of these cases it’s not a sex ed issue. It is just a parenting issue. It’s actually more of a communication issue.
✔️What to say?
✔️How to say it?
✔️How to convincingly say it?
Where did i learn how to do it?
✅ I would say practicing gentle parenting is the way to go about it. When I understood more about the child’s brain, I understood how to deal with questions at each stage.
When I understood how much of emotional regulation they know, I learnt to say things without overwhelming them.
✅Of course the reading I did on sex ed helped but the gentle parenting classes with @gotha_hari_priya along with the books kiss me (Carlos Gonzalez) and how to talk so kids will listen(Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish) , gave me the foundation to talk to Maya. Now I just completed the book non violent communication (Marshall B Rosenberg) and that gave me better clarity on how to communicate.
✔️The foundation was definitely the gentle parenting classes.
I also think once you practise gentle & respectful parenting with your child you’ll automatically be open to their questions, you’ll automatically find ways to answer them, even without a knowledge base in sex ed. Coz even before becoming a sex educator, there was open communication at home.
Two things I’ve realized –
✅Gentle Parenting basics is the prelude to sex ed.. It is the bahubali 1 that you need to be done with before going for part 2.
✅I also believe gentle parenting is the vessel in which which sex ed should travel. Get the vessel ready and you’ll know what to fill it with.